Understanding Your Child: Type 9 of 9

In this post, I discuss type 9 of 9

Core Motivation: feel accepted;                                                                                        

Action Goal: find places and ways to belong

Children strongly influenced by a type 9 core personality are not easily categorized.  They readily change their demeanor to match the expectations of those around them.  Type 9 children are very open to suggestion from both children and adults, especially when that leads to approval and inclusion.  When a type 9 child is subject to an unsupportive environment, she generally lacks the motivation or ambition required to seek a way out.  Children strongly influenced by a type 9 personality are generally eager to please and to be liked.

If you are wondering whether a child you know is influenced by a type 9 personality, it may help to ask yourself these questions:

A.     Does the child seem happiest when receiving approval from a social group?

B.     Are the child’s actions and attitude easily influenced by others?

C.     Does the child seem to lack inner direction and a clear sense of their own identity?

D.     Does the child rarely stand up for himself?

All of these statements would be true for most children influenced by a type 9 core personality.  As always, wings influence the core type, so there may be some minor exceptions.  Type 9 children generally ask for little on their own behalf.  Unless persistently prompted to do so, type 9 children will not tune in to their inner thoughts and feelings.  Unless actively challenged, the older the child gets, the more likely she is to be drawn into peer dynamics that are not in her best interest.  Gently facilitating exploration of personal hobbies and interests will support both her development as an empowered, healthy person, and the relationship between the two of you.