What’s the Difference? Distinguishing Type 6 from types 1, 2, 4 and 9

This post discusses type 6

Core Motivation: feel seen;                                                           

Action Goal: be everywhere at once

There are circumstances when type 6 people can seem to fit the description for type 1, 2, 4 or 9.  Below are some pointers that clarify what sets type 6 people apart from each of the other types.  

Both 6 and 1 types can find themselves stuck in a state of anxiety.  The difference shows up when we look at the reaction to feeling anxious.  Type 6 people react by becoming more frenetic and dramatic in their multitasking.  In contrast, type 1 people react by seeking and holding onto order and predictability.

Both 6 and 2 types actively pursue ways to understand and fill the individual needs of people around them.  The difference shows up when we look at how the givers want their actions to be perceived.  Type 6 people want their actions to be seen as expressions of connectedness and mutual trust in the relationship.  In contrast, type 2 people want their actions to be seen as selfless acts of thoughtfull kindness.  

Both 6 and 4 types are emotionally sensitive.  The difference shows up when we look at the kinds of relationships where that sensitivity appears.   Type 6 people bring their emotional sensitivity to every interaction they have, whether or not it is in the context of an emotionally intimate relationship.  In contrast, type 4 people invest most of their emotional energy into the few most intimate relationships they have.  And, their emotional sensitivity is reserved for those relationships.

For both 6 and 9 types, it is very important to feel included.  The difference shows up when we look at the reaction to not feeling included.  Type 6 people are likely to react with anxiety and behaviors that may exhibit an obsessive or compulsive tendency.  In contrast, when type 9 people feel excluded from a group, they will tend to show no external reaction, often making themselves even more ‘invisible.’

Generally, type 6 individuals are intense and social people whose lives and relationships are filled with drama.